thepowerofme

This time of year is a scary time to be a husband.  Every new year we are bombarded with new years resolutions.  Some good, some bad, and some that are just out right scary.  But what our lovely wives fail to mention is that most of them in a round about way impact our lives as well.  With that in mind I tend not to make any for myself because I am forced to live the ones my wife picks for herself any way.

The biggest one that strikes fear into the hearts of men around the world is when our loving wives decide to loose weight.  I can remember when my wife came home one year and announced to me that she was going on a diet.  Fear is an understatement, for she is the one that does most of the cooking in our household.  I for one looked at this as an invasion of my personal space for being raised in the wilds of Wyoming diets meant a whole new world of dietary consumption.  To fill you all in on what it means to be a true Wyomingite is that we eat things that go moo and run on four legs.  I for one look at most vegetables as the dietary spawn of Satan.  What in the world was I going to eat?  Then I remembered our wedding vows to love one another in sickness and in health, richer or poorer, and to love and support one another till death do us part.  While I looked at the diet initially as getting closer and closer to death I was forced to look at it through a different set of eyes.  As I woke up one morning and got in the bathroom to get ready for my shower.  I happened to look in the mirror and noticed that I was no longer the well per-portioned man that my imagination led me to believe.  Where once a six pack had donned my belly, it was no replaced with the kitchen table and a few cases of butter.  I was amazed how bad certain parts of my body had become in such a short while, and for one was very embarrassed.

So men let’s be honest with ourselves for a brief moment if we can.  Many of us that are married have taken the physical lifestyles that we once knew and threw them out the window.  Where at one time, in our own minds of course, we looked like Greek gods that where here to bless the planet, those times have come and gone.  We are now the worst things we can imagine, a living image of our fathers.  So when your wife comes to you with the news of her new year changes and the word diet comes into the picture we should be excited about the changes she has brought into our shallow worlds.  We can definitely go through the changes with her.  What does it hurt to only eat that one helping of food instead of all the leftovers in one sitting?  Look at it from her eyes, if she wants to loose weight to help herself, we reap the benefits each and every day as she does.

The question for the day is “What is Love”?  Many of us have numerous ideas of what love is, what it feels like and so forth.  But many of us in the world today have never experienced true love.  With the search for love bombarding people across the world with dating sites and numerous love connections we can see that the search is becoming a billion dollar industry.  So what is so hard about finding love in the world today?  The answer is simple, it is you.  True love is not something of the past, it is just something that is being pawned off as lust or just plain sexual desire.

We scour the cities, towns and countries hoping to find that love connection that will end this dreadful display of singleness if for just a moment.  Dating hundreds if not thousands of folks that may come across our paths in the hope of finding that one person we can spend the rest of our lives together.  That my friends is the problem at hand, many of us want to find true love but go looking for it in all the wrong places.

I had a friend when I was younger and single that was so enamoured with the idea of getting married and finding that Mr. Right it consumed her every moment.  She would spend countless nights getting dressed up and looking just right then go scouring the local bars, nightclubs and such, in hopes of finding that hidden gem in the rough.  What she walked away with most of the time was one night stands and broken hearts because she was always hooking up with bar flies.  You know the types, the ones that go to the bar five times a week and look to see what is out there that might be different from the night before.  Never once did she look at her life and examine why it wasn’t working, just kept running the circle like a hamster in the wheel of doom.  She spent years looking for this elusive creature we all call love without luck.  Then by chance she happened upon it one evening, not in bar, nightclub or some other name for local watering hole.  Not some speed dating center where you meet fifty other people as desperate and lonely as you are.  But in a Safeway store, looking to buy a frozen dinner.  He was there walking by with his cart full of regular groceries and saw what disaster she was about to buy and decided then and there to invite her over for dinner.  Some would say that is creepy and dangerous, and yes it is.  But she knew at that moment he was the one for her.

See if you ask many folks around the United States that have been married for any amount of time how they met their spouse.  Many of them will tell you it was when I wasn’t even looking for her.  They saw them at work, across a crowded room or happened across them at the grocery store.  Most marriages that last never happened after a night of amazing parties and unconditional sexual encounters.  It just happens.  Love is not an equation that if you add the right lighting, right atmosphere, perfect looks, you will spend forever together.  It is something deeper than can not be explained as to how or why it happens it just does.

So quit looking for love and start looking for friends.  Who knows you might be the one person that finds their price charming or madame mysterious while you are looking for the perfect book, or while having that morning cup of coffee at Starbucks.  Rest assured when you find it, you will know it.